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Have you ever been bullied by someone? If so, you likely have never forgotten the experience. Dealing with bullies is something that almost everyone goes through at some point or another during their lifetime—school, playground, job. Sometimes, it seems like it never ends for certain individuals. Most of the time, the situation is uncomfortable or irritating to you, but over time the bully goes away or finds another person to bother. Occasionally, however, the results can be catastrophic for the victim.<o:p></o:p> 
 
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According to Dr. Cindy Haines with HealthDay TV, being bullied in elementary school and high school can have a long-term negative impact on health. New research in support of this published in the journal Pediatrics is based on an analysis involving nearly 4,300 children. Starting in 2004, 5th graders were asked to describe any bullying they had experienced at the hands of their classmates. The same kids were surveyed again in both the 7th and 10th grades.<o:p></o:p></div>
More than 30% reported having been frequently bullied during at least one survey. And investigators found that, regardless of age, being bullied was associated with having a worse quality of life, both physically and psychologically. Children who experienced repeated bullying both in the past and the present were the most vulnerable. They fared the worst in terms of overall health, and carried the highest risk for having feelings of low self-worth and depression.<o:p></o:p> 
 
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Children whose bullying was exclusively in the past seemed to be healthier than those whose bullying was a current event, the study team noted. Perhaps unsurprisingly, those who had no history of bullying whatsoever were found to be the healthiest of the bunch supporting early intervention to prevent bullying altogether. Related info can be found at this site: <a href="http://www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/videos/news/Childhood_Bullying_021714-1.html">http://www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/videos/news/Childhood_Bullying_021714-1.html</a>.<o:p></o:p></div>
There are three types of bullying, according <a href="http://www.stopbullying.gov/">www.StopBullying.gov</a> . 
 
Verbal bullying is saying or writing mean things. Verbal bullying includes: <o:p></o:p> 
 
Teasing<o:p></o:p> 
Name-calling<o:p></o:p> 
Inappropriate sexual comments<o:p></o:p> 
Taunting<o:p></o:p> 
Threatening to cause harm<o:p></o:p> 
 
Social bullying, sometimes referred to as relational bullying, involves hurting someone’s reputation or relationships. Social bullying includes: <o:p></o:p> 
 
Leaving someone out on purpose<o:p></o:p> 
Telling other children not to be friends with someone<o:p></o:p> 
Spreading rumors about someone<o:p></o:p> 
Embarrassing someone in public<o:p></o:p> 
 
Physical bullying involves hurting a person’s body or possessions. Physical bullying includes: <o:p></o:p> 
 
Hitting/kicking/pinching<o:p></o:p> 
Spitting<o:p></o:p> 
Tripping/pushing<o:p></o:p> 
Taking or breaking someone’s things<o:p></o:p> 
Making mean or rude hand gestures<o:p></o:p> 
 
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Bullying is unwanted, aggressive behavior that involves a real or perceived power imbalance. The behavior is repeated, or has the potential to be repeated, over time. There are two sources of federally collected data on youth bullying:<o:p></o:p></div>
 
The 2011 <a href="http://www.cdc.gov/HealthyYouth/yrbs/index.htm">Youth Risk Behavior Surveillance System</a> (Centers for Disease Control and Prevention) indicates that, nationwide, 20% of students in grades 9–12 experienced bullying. 
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The 2008–2009 <a href="http://nces.ed.gov/pubs2012/2012314.pdf">School Crime Supplement</a>(National Center for Education Statistics and Bureau of Justice Statistics) indicates that, nationwide, 28% of students in grades 6–12 experienced bullying. 
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Much more info on bullying can be found at this site: <a href="http://www.stopbullying.gov/what-is-bullying/definition/index.html">http://www.stopbullying.gov/what-is-bullying/definition/index.html</a>.<o:p></o:p> 
 
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Having to deal with a bully is hard for kids — especially at school, according to <a href="http://www.kidshealth.org/">www.KidsHealth.org</a>. Listen to your child's worries and convey that they're perfectly understandable and that it's OK for him or her to feel that way. Offer assurance without making him feel like you're trying to talk him out of feeling that way or dismissing his feelings.<o:p></o:p></div>
 
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As your kid tells you how he feels, be sure to repeat back his thoughts and feelings using phrases like, "I know you're feeling worried." When he feels understood by you, he'll be more receptive to your help and any advice on coping that you offer.<o:p></o:p></div>
 
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Let him know that everyone worries, even adults, at one time or another. But also make sure he knows that there are ways he can feel better and less fearful. Go over some strategies that he can use if someone teases him. Ignoring the bully and simply walking away or using humor to combat aggressiveness might get the bully to stop. Bullies often give up when they don't get a response from their target.<o:p></o:p></div>
 
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Try to get your child to talk about what has been going on at school — just listening can be helpful. Although kids can resolve many incidents of bullying on their own, do keep an eye on the situation. If it persists, get involved by talking to your child's teacher or school counselor. Much more info on bullying can be found at this website: <a href="http://kidshealth.org/parent/emotions/behavior/bullies.html">http://kidshealth.org/parent/emotions/behavior/bullies.html</a>.<o:p></o:p></div>
 
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Bullying also takes place at worksite locations, according to <a href="http://www.workplacebullying.org/faq/">http://www.workplacebullying.org/faq/</a>. It is mistreatment severe enough to compromise a targeted worker's health, jeopardize her or his job and career, and strain relationships with friends and family. It is a laser-focused, systematic campaign of interpersonal destruction. It has nothing to do with work itself. It is driven by the bully's personal agenda and actually prevents work from getting done. It begins with one person singling out the target. Before long, the bully easily and swiftly recruits others to gang up on the target, which increases the sense of isolation. <o:p></o:p></div>
 
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You are miserable. You are harassed. Your work is sabotaged, blocked, or stolen. Perhaps, you didn't think of calling it bullying because that's what happens to kids in school, not to adults. Wrong! Workplace Bullying is experienced by more than one third of the U.S. workforce. Much more detail can be found at the website. <o:p></o:p></div>
 
A workplace bully may be your boss or your co-worker. No one should ever make you feel uncomfortable at work. If you are a victim of bullying in your workplace consider speaking to someone in the human resources department for help in dealing with it, according to About.com Career Planning.<o:p></o:p> 
 
If you would like to try to deal with this situation before you report it, here are some tips. If you are being physically threatened don't waste a minute before you report it to both your employer and the police. If you are dealing with a workplace bully: 
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<li class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin: 0in 0in 10pt; mso-list: l1 level1 lfo3; mso-margin-bottom-alt: auto; mso-margin-top-alt: auto; tab-stops: list .5in;">If you can, confront the bully in a professional manner, but only if your physical safety isn't threatened. Don't sink to his or her level. Stay as calm as possible. Don't yell or threaten. Often bullies are looking for this type of confrontation and it will encourage them to come back for more. Don't cry or show weakness either. That's usually what the bully is after in the first place.<o:p></o:p></li>
<li class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin: 0in 0in 10pt; mso-list: l1 level1 lfo3; mso-margin-bottom-alt: auto; mso-margin-top-alt: auto; tab-stops: list .5in;">Don't try to win over other people to your side. The way in which you handle the situation will allow them to make their own judgments.<o:p></o:p></li>
<li class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin: 0in 0in 10pt; mso-list: l1 level1 lfo3; mso-margin-bottom-alt: auto; mso-margin-top-alt: auto; tab-stops: list .5in;">Don't allow the bully to intimidate you or make you feel bad about yourself. You know your true worth. Don't forget what that is.<o:p></o:p></li>
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Bullying is wrong, and the behavior of bullies should not be tolerated. If you or a loved one or friend is a victim of a bully, report it to an authority who is empowered to take action to stop the offenses. If you feel that you have little to no recourse, then seek professional help. Remember, a bully is someone who feels they can beat you up, in more ways than one. If you take that power away, then you have an opportunity to seek renewal and relief in your daily life.<o:p></o:p> 
 
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Have you ever been bullied by someone? If so, you likely have never forgotten the experience. Dealing with bullies is something that almo...

<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"> By Brad Zehring, DO </div> <div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"> </div> <div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"> I would rather be a little nobody, then to be an evil somebody - Abraham Lincoln <o:p></o:p></div> <div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"> Typically, when bullying is talked about it is in the context of children or adolescents during some level of schooling. Rarely do we think about<a href="http://www.nxtbook.com/nxtbooks/apf/mentalhealthworks_2012q2/#/6" target="_blank"> bullying as an adult issue.</a> However, much more attention has been focused on adult bullying – more specifically, adult bullying in the <a href="http://www.nxtbook.com/nxtbooks/apf/mentalhealthworks_2012q2/#/6" target="_blank">workplace.<o:p></o:p></a></div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh6gbkoJjXtispBE11miJABZcf2lJICFyFl3vkXW4M5q70a-fH5meOIm8jM-MrogpRoNJWRJ1JhsWU0Re0EgoUFPBC-u1hWlMvFujsT5W6VdOl2aY4qO1cCyy3X2Bv7IEUT0ceIVuqR6U9I/s1600/Unity+Day_Bully.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh6gbkoJjXtispBE11miJABZcf2lJICFyFl3vkXW4M5q70a-fH5meOIm8jM-MrogpRoNJWRJ1JhsWU0Re0EgoUFPBC-u1hWlMvFujsT5W6VdOl2aY4qO1cCyy3X2Bv7IEUT0ceIVuqR6U9I/s1600/Unity+Day_Bully.jpg" width="214" /></a></div> According to various sources, citing research and survey’s, it has been reported that as many as 1 in 4 adults will face some form of bullying in their career.  It is important to point out the differences between constructive criticism, workplace conflict, and bullying. Workplace bullying focuses on the person rather than the performance or task being completed by the person. In addition, the person being targeted feels powerless to stop it. Making the situation worse, is when the adult being bullied goes to management to report the offense and the abuse is minimized or discounted altogether. Complicating the issue further is the difficulty verbalizing what is taking place or being unaware that what is occurring is bullying, leading to worsening suffering.<o:p></o:p> <div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"> What are some forms of workplace bullying?<o:p></o:p></div> As discussed earlier, workplace bullying can be described as an extreme pattern where the person is isolated apart from his/her performance or task. Some examples of <a href="http://www.nxtbook.com/nxtbooks/apf/mentalhealthworks_2012q2/#/6" target="_blank">workplace bullying</a> are: being left-out of work-related social events, coworkers refusing to help when asked, coworkers leaving the room when you enter or routinely arriving to meetings late that when you call them, being yelled at, put down, or disciplined in front of your coworkers. These are some of the ways that workplace bullying presents, but it is not an exhaustive list.<o:p></o:p> <div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"> How workplace bullying is harmful<o:p></o:p></div> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhWW2khCUHbZEJaXeZvTJqMszw500RgDY2__K6bneUuzKjL4aBO0OvsPYT72G6ClM3EuZO6D0j4V6T_CzzjbzHjWjJ1i_R3IQ34vg5Oo22L3KR1aNGsj_UGaGx488WrRiS6YAbgR6xyNFFx/s1600/Suicide-Prevention-Graphic-FB-Cox.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" height="200" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhWW2khCUHbZEJaXeZvTJqMszw500RgDY2__K6bneUuzKjL4aBO0OvsPYT72G6ClM3EuZO6D0j4V6T_CzzjbzHjWjJ1i_R3IQ34vg5Oo22L3KR1aNGsj_UGaGx488WrRiS6YAbgR6xyNFFx/s1600/Suicide-Prevention-Graphic-FB-Cox.jpg" width="200" /></a>For individuals who are being bullied in the workplace, their desire to go into work day after day is diminished and their satisfaction in their performance and with their employer decreases.  Many reports discuss the loss of productivity when job satisfaction decreases. Beyond the psychological stress (<a href="http://www.psychiatry.org/mental-health/more-topics/warning-signs-of-mental-illness" target="_blank">depression</a>, anxiety, <a href="http://www.psychiatry.org/mental-health/people/military" target="_blank">PTSD</a>, etc) – which should not be minimized, stress from bullying can lead to physical illness such as stroke, heart attacks, chronic fatigue or dissatisfaction in an person’s personal life – including leading to <a href="http://suicide./">suicide.</a> There are many reports documenting poor job satisfaction negatively affecting all areas on one’s life. Feeling accomplished and satisfied in a career can lead to a happier personal life and vice versa.<o:p></o:p> How to prevent or deal with workplace bullying<o:p></o:p> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi7H3gsvYWqdfX3q723HcxUnnWdjIP3XLjPsfjlz73wZ5hqd6Lncppc6MSAozbWglYH8LrnMbUptMYkhCtGdpS6y1MS3WOfm0ywn0ChIzK_k4dh04VvnYxBOaHhay3Uzt_N03IozmIM8OXH/s1600/2014-UD-banner-600px+unite+against+bullying.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="106" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi7H3gsvYWqdfX3q723HcxUnnWdjIP3XLjPsfjlz73wZ5hqd6Lncppc6MSAozbWglYH8LrnMbUptMYkhCtGdpS6y1MS3WOfm0ywn0ChIzK_k4dh04VvnYxBOaHhay3Uzt_N03IozmIM8OXH/s1600/2014-UD-banner-600px+unite+against+bullying.jpg" width="200" /></a>While recognizing or speaking up about workplace bullying can be a difficult task - it is important not to be silent about bullying experiences, whether personal attacks or witnessed attacks on colleagues, or isolate from those that may be able to help. Currently, states are working on anti-bullying bills to encourage healthy workplace environments, but fostering a workplace for your coworkers that doesn’t tolerate bullying is key. Many organizations provide or contract with mental health professionals willing to discuss, advise, and help an individual navigate the process. It is important to document your concerns and be specific and concise with the message you are trying to convey if you feel you are being bullied. Despite how difficult it may be, it is important to approach the bully or go to your supervisor with a calm demeanor and discuss your concerns rationally. Lastly, it is important to have an open mind about the situation. Sometimes it may be that the “bully” does not realize how his/her actions have affected you. Approaching them, or the situation, calmly will provide an environment for understanding and increase the probability for change. <o:p></o:p> <div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"> <o:p><a href="http://apahealthyminds.blogspot.com/2011/12/how-to-bully-proof-kids.html" target="_blank">How to "Bully-Proof " Kids </a></o:p></div> <a class="twitter-share-button" data-count="horizontal" data-related="APAPsychiatric" data-via="APAHealthyMinds" href="http://twitter.com/share">Tweet</a><script src="http://platform.twitter.com/widgets.js" type="text/javascript"> </script>

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